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Basic Funeral Service Etiquette

H.E. Turner Funeral Homes • May 16, 2022

Most people, if they are lucky, have not had to attend many funeral services in their lifetime. If you have not attended one before but now have the need to, you may be unsure how to act, what to wear, or what other etiquette you should adhere to. Don’t worry, we are going to go over the main things you need to know when attending a funeral service at funeral homes in Batavia, NY., or any other location.


What Do I Wear?

This is often the most common concern as you want to look respectful, but also not too overdressed. As far as appropriate attire for women, a dress or blouse and slacks are fine. Keep jewelry to a minimum with classic pieces that aren’t too flashy. Imagine you are attending a church service ad dress for that.


For men, a nice dress shirt and tie with slacks, or a suit are good choices. Also, as with women, keep watches and other jewelry to a minimum and choose pieces that aren’t flashy.


The classic color choice of outfits for both men and women is black, but any darker, more somber color will do. Some of these colors could be navy, grey, or other neutral tones.


Where Do I Sit?

When finding a place to sit, keep in mind that typically, the right side of the room is where relatives of the deceased sit. On the left side is where people such as friends, co-workers, and acquaintances sit. Once you know which side to choose, take a seat somewhere behind the first few rows. Those rows are reserved for the immediate family and close relatives.


If there is no seating available, you can stand. Also, be aware if seating is limited to give up your seat to someone who may need to sit such as an elderly or disabled guest.


Should I Bring My Kids?

If you have young children, it is normally better to leave them with a babysitter or relative while you attend the services. No matter how well behaved they are, children seem to fuss at the most inopportune times. If you have to bring your children and they begin to cry or fuss, take them out of the room immediately and wait to come back only when they are quiet again.


How Early Should I Arrive?

It’s a good idea to allow yourself time to arrive to the funeral services no less than 15-20 minutes early. This will give you enough time to find parking and take your seat. If you do happen to arrive late, do not interrupt the service tying to find a place to sit. Simply find a seat near the back of the room and quietly sit down.


What About Cell Phones?

Obviously, you will need to ensure your cell phone is off as to not disrupt the services you choose. Also, it’s best to not have your cell phone out at all. It can be very disrespectful to be scrolling Instagram or texting with a friend during this time. Leave your cell phone in your purse, pocket, or even better, the car.


Final Thoughts

Remember, it’s very common to be nervous about going into a situation you never have before. When you are attending services arranged with funeral homes in Batavia, NY., knowing a little of what is expected of you can help you feel more assured see the news and events section to have more information you need about funeral etiquette.

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